This week's post is an excerpt by Rick Hanson, Ph.D. ( www.rickhanson.net ), a psychologist who is particularly interested in the intersection of neuroscience and mental health. I feel this piece will be of value to all of my clients, whether they are primarily focused on life coaching, career counseling, couples counseling, or the general pursuit of a happier life.
"Most of us wear a kind of mask, a persona that hides our deepest thoughts and feelings, and presents a polished, controlled face to the world.
|To be sure, a persona is a good thing to have. For example, meetings at work, holidays with the in-laws, or a first date are usually not the best time to spill your guts. Just because you're selective about what you reveal to the world does not mean you're insincere; phoniness is only when we lie about what's really going on inside.
Much of the time, we interact mask-to-mask with other people. There's a place for that. But remember times when someone saw through your mask to the real you, the person back behind your eyes. If you're like me, those times were both unnerving and wonderful.